How to be happy

If you smile you will be happy

2010-03-08T22:53:00.000-08:00

Surveys show us that if you force your lips to smile, you will wake up hormones in your brain and feel happy for real. So, even if you were not in a sparkling mood to start with, you can fill yourself with joy in just a few seconds. Just smile!

Smile right now when reading this text and you’ll see! It works.

The smile will start a positive circle, because the funny thing is that when you smile you will be aware of the good things that happen in your life, instead of the bad stuff. You will notice the sun and the nice lady at the convenience store, instead of getting irritated of the heat and that annoying work colleague. You will suddenly wear “happy glasses”, helping you focus your mind on the right things. I mean, you see, smell, taste and feel millions of things every day, and your mind can only pick up a few of them. If you smile, you’ll see the best.

If you smile, people will also be more open towards you. They will feel welcomed into your zone and more willing to start talking to you. This will hopefully make you feel even better.

Many of the singles I meet as a love coach are stuck in an unhappy mood. They feel bitter or scared. They have stopped smiling, because they don’t dare to fall in love and loose it again.

I know it can be terrifying to loose control and fall in love. What if no one catches you? But where does that lead you? Do you want to stay unhappy for the rest of your life? Probably not, huh?

I tell my shy and scared clients to force their body to act as if they are happy. Start with pretending, as if you were an actor in a movie, and the true feelings will come eventually! Try to think of a person you know who is smiling a lot and seems happy, and then act as if you were that person.

Exercise:

- Start by smiling at home as often as you can.
- Practice by smiling to at least 5 strangers a day – at the super market maybe?
- Start flirting with one person a day
- Now it will come automatically!

2010-02-17T22:22:00.000-08:00

Also have a look at http://superhappychannel.blogspot.com/ for more advice on how to be happy! :)

Be happy by saying no to negative people

2010-02-15T13:27:00.000-08:00

If you avoid neagtive people and news, you will feel better. How to be happy? Say NO to negativity!!

How to be happy when you are unhappy

2010-02-14T22:18:00.001-08:00

Some days you wake up and you are NOT super happy at all, it´s the opposite. You feel fat, like you don´t appreciate your job or as if you will never find love ever again. Life sucks, you are bored or numb. But hang on. Do you want your day to be like that? Do you like this feeling - is that why you keep on to it? Why not choose to feel better today? How to be happy?

1. Decide you wish to be happy. You deserve it and you are willing to receive healing from yourself. It´s nice to be happy. The sadness does not serve you. If you close the door, light can´t come in. You have to want it. Ok?

2. Choose words you like. Joy, light, fire, love, friends, sunshine, water, happy... The more you repeat these words, the stronger impact they have on you. Make sure you also build pictures in your head representing these words.

3. Do something new, that you have not tried before. Eat something new, go somewhere. Do it by yourself if you need to, no need for company, open up for new friends.

4. Smile, walk straight, watch your body language so it is bouncy and happy and don´t carry any of the darkness within you.

5. Call at least 2 friends and chat. Relationship - all sorts - is what brings light into our lives.

6. List 20 things that would make you happy today. It´s a reason the list is long. Those last ideas, that you have to force out, are often the best. Look at the list and ask if there is anything YOU is in charge of. Can YOU affect your happiness now? In the future? Make a long term plan as well as a plan for today.

7. Be nice to other people. We live in a community where good energy floats between people and we are meant to care for each other. When we get angry or sad we tend to spread our negativity to others, but please don´t. Make sure you are super charming today, as if that was your mission - to make people around you feel good.

You will be happy when people like you

2010-02-13T00:20:00.000-08:00

If you learn to be social and make friends, you will be happy in the long run! :)